Child Custody & Support

Child Custody: Most families are concerned with the effects of the divorce on their children. There are many resources, including family therapists that can assist in a smooth transition for the family and especially the children. Many times, both parents are an intricate part of their children’s lives, but even if they aren’t, it is important to focus on what is best for the children in the future. This is a difficult process whether or not you have been married, because children are so important.

No other single issue is more emotionally charged and important than matters concerning child custody. For many years, people have fought over the rights to obtain custody over the children when a relationship or marriage takes a turn. The help of Easterling Law is necessary to protect your rights as a parent.

North Carolina follows the “best interests of the child” standard, whereby the court takes into account many factors to determine where the child or children should reside as their primary residence and which parent should make important decisions in the child’s life such as educational, religious, and medical decisions.

Factors taken into account for child custody:Child Custody - Easterling Family Law

  • The mental and physical health of all parties involved
  • How the child adjusts to his/her environment in school, home or the community
  • History of violence by either of the parents
  • The relationship between the child and each parent
  • The home environment each parent can provide for the child
  • The preferences of the child (normally only if over age 13 and mature)
  • The recommendation by an expert witness
  • The wishes of the parents

This is a list of special considerations that should be taken into account, but doesn’t include all factors considered. Family law judges will weigh each of these factors, and many more, to determine what they believe is in the child’s best interest. Remember, this is not necessarily what either parent wants, it is what the judge believes is the best outcome for the child to have the best possible upbringing. Only an experienced child custody attorney can advise you as to what your personal situation means when applying these factors to your case.


Easterling Law can explain the details of exactly what the difference is between joint custody and sole custody—but here is a basic primer. In most cases, joint custody is based on the court belief that encouraging parents to work together for the best interests of the child is of utmost importance in developing a healthy relationship with both parents and the child, whereas an award of sole custody to one parent is because the court does not believe the parties can cooperate well enough to work together for the child.

Joint Custody: Joint legal custody is when both parents share equally in the decision-making about each child’s academic education, health care needs, religious education and extracurricular activities. Joint physical custody means both parents spend an equal amount of time in the daily care of the child. Usually this arrangement means that the child spends an equal amount of time living at mom’s house and at dad’s house.

Sole custody: Sometimes, sole custody is necessary to protect the children from an abusive situation — usually from a parent that is physically abusive, addicted to drugs or alcohol, or has severe mental health problems and cannot safely care for his or her children. Even in cases where one parent has sole custody, the non-custodial parent often has visitation rights, and is still able to spend time with the children on a set schedule.

Child Support: Child support – both mothers and fathers have issues with understanding the laws and way in which child support must be paid. More often than not, it’s difficult to sort out who is owed what and how it needs to be paid.

Easterling Family Law can help you determine how to best support your child financially.

The amount of child support is a calculation that was formulated to ensure that children were receiving support from both of their parents. Child support breaks down into a simple formula that will be determined by statute. Establishing child support is an important part of the divorce or separation proceedings, and understanding your responsibilities and rights as a parent can help you to make smart choices for yourself and your children.

Child custody - Easterling Family lawFamilies should come up with estimates of how much raising a child — from major expenses like room and board to little costs like school clothes and school supplies — really costs. Most married couples tend to split their parental duties, it is not uncommon for one parent to know exactly how much all of these child-related things cost and for the other parent to be clueless about the actual cost to raise a child. When both parents understand the costs of caring for a child or for multiple children conflict can be avoided. Because child support can be confusing, you need an experienced advocate like Lindsey Easterling who help you navigate the confusing calculations of child support.